That subtle vice-grip on my arm when we’re out in public…I like that shit.

I know there’s a few people who have always been curious about ostentatious displays in public, but have never participated in such acts and don’t know where to start. Maybe you don’t want to come off as a lewd pervert in front of a crowd, or maybe you just don’t know how your sub will react in a public place. Here’s a tip – talk to them. Communication is key. Talk to them about perhaps trying something new, but while you’re out and about. You can even have a code or signal, if preferred, to set boundaries on the go. After all, the thrill of the rush makes for plenty excitement.

If you are as befuddled as some people I know, you’re just looking for subtle things you can get away with easily to get the ball rolling, build up some skillset, confidence, etc. I know some people are not fans of PDA, but what I’m talking about doesn’t have to be softhearted or tender in any sort of way.
Here’s some gestures for those who are desiring a notion of commencing subtle public acts:

  • Back-of-neck grasping. Of course this is more pleasant with longer hair to hide some possible claws/nails if you’d like to really get in the flesh, but a nice, tight little grab right at the nape still lets a person discern your dominance.
  • That fleshy part on the back of your upper arm…That’s fantastic for leading someone around with, rather than a simple hand-hold. You can give it a nice squeeze, pinch, etc. if they start wandering, or being naughty.
  • While you’re sitting next to your partner, sit close, and choose chairs or benches with high, covered backs. This makes reaching up the back of their shirt plenty accessible without having to worry who sees. Leave some nice little scratches if you please.
  • Men, if your lady-friend is engaging in a conversation with an annoying friend or stranger in a mall or otherwise, and won’t shut up, there are better ways to get her moving again than desperately dragging her away. You can try “The Look™”, patented by Domly Doms™ everywhere. If that doesn’t get her moving, stand behind her with your arms wrapped around her chest, ever so innocent looking, and hold her tight to you. I’m sure you can see where this is going, but if she doesn’t start stuttering and squirming in front of her friend while your cock is hard-pressed against her ass and you’re playing it cool, I don’t know what to tell you.
  • A good wallop to the backside is always pleasant, and you can get a good strike when people aren’t watching. A simple little pinch on the rear works as well.
  • Soft and subtle can be lovely as well. A caress of the face, lips, a quick slip over the thigh, ass…Literally, your fingers are magic. Use what your Momma gave you. Seriously.
  • WORDS. Use your mouth. Just a little whisper of some teasing, taunting words can make your sub go crazy.

Start with the small things, and work your way up. Be on purpose and committed with your gestures, and learn new experiences gradually, especially if you’re one to get paranoid in the public eye. Please don’t leap into a full-blown session in a public place if you’re inexperienced and the paranoid type. It could end terribly for both parties. Public play is a skill as well, and just like any skillset, practice makes perfect.

I’m sure this is all in the Domly Dom Handbook™, but I thought I’d post this anyways.